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There are a variety of reasons to meditate.  Some meditate for stress reduction. Others do it to improve their sleep; while others strive for more mystical benefits. But another good reason to meditate is that it is a great tool for anyone who is seeking to make a transformation.  And this is why I use it in my work as a coach and wellness teacher. With all of my coaching clients, whether they are seeking life coaching, spiritual coaching, or career change coaching, I teach them a basic, five-minute meditation practice that they can do once a day and that fits into the busiest of lifestyles. This meditation practice complements the other standard coaching techniques that I use in my work.

Meditation as a tool for career change along with other types of coaching serves dual purposes:

  • It expands the horizon of our self awareness so we become aware of beliefs and thought patterns that may be blocking us from moving forward;
  • It provides a vehicle for communicating to the subconscious mind where deeply ingrained beliefs and thought patterns are embedded.

When clients come to me for coaching – whether it’s life, spiritual, or career change coaching – they are trying to get from point A to point B.  But for some reason, they aren’t getting to point B. Though they may be 100% committed to getting to point B, they just can’t seem to get there. This is because another part of them, or another part of their consciousness, is going to point C or point D. And in some cases, it’s going nowhere at all. This subversive part of them is their subconscious mind.

As a coach, I’ll spend some time talking with my clients about why their subconscious mind is running a different program. It’s usually due to an underlying fear of some kind and a corresponding commitment. In coaching parlance, we call this a “UAC” – an Underlying Automatic Commitment. A UAC is a commitment to something that we haven’t consciously chosen. That’s why it’s underlying.  And it’s happening involuntarily, which is why it’s automatic. Furthermore, it’s overriding the conscious commitment because it’s stronger.

For instance, if a career change coaching client comes to me and says he wants to leave his corporate job and become a writer. He has a conscious commitment to becoming a writer. But he hasn’t taken the necessary step(s) to become one.  In this case, a common UAC is that he is more committed to staying safe.  A less common UAC is that he is committed to proving something about himself to be true.  For example, he may be reinforcing a belief that was instilled in him as a child which told him he wasn’t creative enough to succeed or some variation of that theme.

UACs can be tricky to uncover. Some are deeply embedded. This is where meditation serves a very useful purpose.  It expands the horizon of our self awareness – not during the meditation – but throughout the day.  As we go about our day, we become increasingly aware of the subtler streams of consciousness (our thoughts and emotions) that are flowing through us. And as a result, we uncover these UACs.

Once we discover these Underlying Automatic Commitments, it’s just a matter of shining the light of our awareness on them and then balancing them. In order to balance them, you need to speak the language of the subconscious.  This is where meditation plays a pivotal role because the subconscious is most receptive when the conscious mind is most calm.  It’s like the lines of communication are open for business.

So after clients get acclimated with the basic, five-minute practice that I teach them, and once I get to know them better and what may be blocking them, I give them a technique for speaking to their subconscious that is tailored to address their particular UAC.

This is deeply transformative work but it doesn’t have to be hard. In fact, it isn’t. When the conscious and subconscious minds are on the same page, transformation can happen quickly and more importantly, it will be sustained. It’s actually pretty effortless once you unlock the keys to your subconscious mind and communicate to it in a language it understands. Meditation is a great tool for doing both.

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<h2>EFT a quick stress relief buster, taught by a life and health coach </h2>

Let’s first talk about the epidemic of carbohydrate addiction happening in this country and then we can go on to discuss how EFT can help.

High-fructose corn syrup is a sweetener found in most sodas and many other processed foods. In a new study on mice, this sweetener is shown to be at least partially the cause of insulin resistance.

How would you like to eat something that turns to fat quicker than sugar? Fructose is the culprit – it is metabolized into fat storage over glucose storage in the liver. What is worse, in the process it can lead to nonalcoholic fatty liver disease (NAFLD), which then leads to an insulin resistance of the liver (“hepatic insulin resistance” and eventually type II diabetes!

New cases of diabetes have ballooned. The increase doctors have seen is 90% in the last ten years! One in four Americans is now afflicted with either pre-diabetes or diabetes. What are we doing to ourselves?

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On top of this, food – particularly sugar – is an addictive substance for those who have what used to be considered just an “alcoholic gene.” In fact, there are five major addictions, all of which are the same disease. Approximately 20% of the population is born with this “alcoholic gene”. What they’re born with is an inability, due to the right brain chemicals, to feel good. Called the “Reward Deficiency Syndrome,” the startling fact is that this syndrome is why all five addictions: alcohol, drugs, food, sex, gambling and work, become the “substance of choice” to feel good.

But I couldn’t end this discussion without urging that if you or someone you love or care about seems to have an addiction problem – if you even think there is one – please seek out an addiction expert in your area, or alcoholics anonymous (AA). AA has lists of meetings related to the other addictions as well.

Now let us turn to EFT and discuss how it can assist recovery:

EFT has worked for hundreds of my clients, over and over again, to stop the urgency of addictive cravings for sugar and carbohydrates as well as a serious cocaine addiction. EFT does not eliminate the fact that the person has been born with the reward deficiency syndrome. But EFT is a fabulous tool for eliminating the stressful triggers that upset addicted individuals and increase their need to use their addiction to feel better. They feel better with EFT and so some of the mental, emotional and even physiological changes that occur when using EFT have given my clients with addictive habits the ability to make the right choice.

Instead of diving into a hot fudge Sunday they may choose to call a supportive friend. Instead of smoking another cigarette (a drug to be sure) they may actually take a walk – anything that is pleasurable to them that they can fit into that time, even if it’s just looking at the sunset for a few minutes to calm themselves further. While this may seem simplistic, EFT has a powerful way of releasing stress, cravings and emotional upset within the body and body chemistry. Using tools like EFT not only relieve many of the stressful inner triggers to picking up sugar or any addictive substance, but it also “buys time”. EFT gives you a window of opportunity to make better choices and get support instead.

No, EFT doesn’t “cure” an addiction, but it is a powerful tool to aid the continued process of staying in recovery and peace. It has worked for me, for my clients and it can work for you! I am the resident Feroce expert on conquering negative habits, EFT and other mind-body tools for change and it would be my pleasure to assist you. You can read my full bio.

Coach Christina
Sources:

-Science Daily March 3, 2009
-Cell Metabolism March 2009; 9(3):252-64
-The Reward Deficiency Syndrome by Kenneth Blum, Ph.D., D.A.C.A.C.D. and Jay M. Holder, D.C., M.D., Ph.D.

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Are the numbers driving you?  Even when your metrics shout success, are you winning?  Are you making impact or just managing metrics?

In our current world, numbers seem to rule.  Take a moment and observe the power that certain numbers have in assigning our value as individuals, value to the company, and value in the marketplace.  Examine how attached we are to these numbers.

If you’re in sales or running your own business, you measure your success by the number of prospects you close.  But are you sacrificing your long term sustainability and marketability as a business, as a top producer, when you only focus on the immediate return?  Whether you are in sales, or not, as an individual, manager, or senior leader you are sized up and measured against your peers and your competitors in your industry.  In many organizations, you are competing against your peers just to drive up your numbers on your annual reviews.

Yes, your livelihood depends on your quantitative performance.  However, what price are you paying?

There are a few individuals in the world who seem to be the lucky ones.  They are living the life of their dreams without fear of the numbers.  Instead, they are driven by their inner desire to follow their passions and naturally attract success.  Do they know something you don’t?

Over the past 25 years, I have been investigating, researching, and testing multiple diverse theories of success and happiness.  What emerged was that you couldn’t engage in just following someone else’s goals or force yourself to act, be, or live opposite your natural self, without discomfort, pain, or struggle.  Experiencing this angst first hand fueled my quest to discover the fundamental process for finding true success and happiness.  If you are trying to convince yourself and everyone around you that you are working hard at success, you may be actually experiencing the opposite of true success and just be focusing on the extrinsic goals others have set for you.  It may feel like you’re a hamster on a wheel, in a cage, getting nowhere fast as you work against your natural self.

In his recent and timely book, “Drive:  The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us,” Dan Pink describes: “Goals that people set for themselves and that are devoted to attaining mastery are usually healthy.  But goals imposed by others-sales targets, quarterly returns, standardized test scores, and so on-can sometimes have dangerous side effects.

Remember, success is relative.  For some, success might be living in a beach house in the Caribbean, painting, and selling your artwork in your own local art gallery.  For others, it’s being a popular best selling author and motivational speaker.  The key is to discover and get clear about your ideal scenario.  If you’re not clear about your long-term vision or where you’re headed, then odds are that you’re on the nowhere road.  On this road, it’s easy to just succumb to someone else’s vision, or just comply with the world’s expectations instead of creating your own.

Before they begin coaching, many of my clients have never taken the time or given themselves permission to find out what they really want out of life.  They seem to fall into their jobs, or their careers, and never pause to question if this is the career or life they truly want.  If this describes you, it is easy to see how you could easily be run by the numbers and how they could actually define you, your status, and your worth.

Have you ever wondered what would happen if you didn’t follow what everybody expected you to do?  If you have spent your life trying to please everybody in your life, have you ever really figured out what will please you?  If your scorecard reflects all wins, you have lost if these are not your dreams, just goals imposed on by others.

So, start with a first step.  Decide today that you will not make any big changes immediately until you have all the facts and information and you are perfectly clear about what you truly want.  As Scarlett O’Hara proclaims in “Gone With the Wind: …After all, tomorrow is another day.

With clarity, the decisions become easy.  When things are clear, you know what makes sense.

Your mission if you choose to accept it, is to set a goal to discover what you truly want out of your job, your career, your relationships, and your life.  It is too easy to blame everybody but yourself for your experiences.  But a lot of it is really up to you.  A few of us can do this on our own.

However, if you need support to gain clarity and separate the numbers from your true goals, then choose coaching.

Are you ready to step aboard and discover how you might live and start to thrive?  Try out a free coaching consultation with Wanda Ropa, your success coach to get clear about where you’re going with your career, or with your life so you can develop a strategic plan that really works for you.  With clarity, success becomes a natural outcome.

Posted by Wanda Ropa, The Success Coach.

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