It’s never too late to learn new tricks as this video reveals.
Yes, anyone can learn a new technique or trick for success. Surf the Internet and it’s full of proven methods to become successful in business, your career, and your life. Every day, a new guaranteed program is popping up in the field of self-help. Many of my clients turn to coaching because they have repeatedly tried everything from A to Z and it works for a little while, then it’s back to their old ways.
What’s missing? Why do old patterns keep showing up over and over? Research demonstrates that it takes 28-30 days to change a habit, introduce a new way of conducting business, living life, etc. Actually, what I’ve discovered is that it only takes 14 days because if you have repeated a new habit or technique consistently for 14 days, by the 15th day, it will seem strange without it. So, you usually continue. By the time you reach the end of the 30 days, you have successfully shifted. Then all it takes is another couple months to reinforce it, and voila, you’ve sustained a change.
In theory, this sounds too easy. You’re right. There is one more piece to making this work. It has to be in synch with who you are naturally. Most of my clients have no idea who they really are and what makes them tick. They have been too busy listening to everyone else and not truly taking time to find out.
Is this complicated? No. The first place to start is to ask 2 questions. What energizes you and what drains you? You always know what drains you and if you start to pay attention, you can easily identify what energizes you, as well.
The key is to start creating a custom navigation tool that will help you get back on course and stay on the road to success. Only by doing the things that come naturally will you be able to stop resisting yourself and actually improve the quality of your life.
I am not recommending that you make any drastic changes. I am only asking you to discover 2 things:
1. What energizes you?
2. What drains you?
Once you are clear with both questions, you can start coming up with a list of things that must happen in your life. These will start to be included in your top priorities. For example, one of my clients, a business owner, was trying to grow his business and heard from many sources that all he had to do was to attend business functions, network and follow-up on leads. This appeared to be sound advice. However, group socializing and general networking meetings actually totally drained him. He did better with growing individual relationships that were meaningful. So, he created a description of his ideal client and researched places they would attend. Turns out, he was targeting individuals in the creative professions and he had a passion for the performing arts. Instead of attending unfruitful business meetings, he attended plays and started becoming involved in Community Theater in his back yard. His new approach energized him and satisfied his passion for the arts. In just a couple of months, he was happier and had acquired a dozen new clients. He was no longer resisting the traditional marketing program. This client changed the physical location where he was conducting business. Physical locations provide some of the most powerful cues to behavior.
The most important thing to remember about success is to give yourself permission to explore alternatives without being fixed on the outcome. To change a pattern or habit that’s not working, identify where this usually happens. Then …change the context, change the cues. …This requires understanding the triggers to your own behavior.
In the business world, it’s all about ROI and value propositions from employees. Performance reviews are all about metrics. It’s not about abolishing the metrics; it’s about giving yourself permission to creatively look at new approaches that map to the way you operate best. If you increase the activities that energize you and minimize the ones that drain you, you will already notice a difference.
Try a free coaching consultation with Wanda Ropa, your success coach to get you started and get clear about where you’re going with your career, or with your life so you can develop a strategic plan that really works for you. With clarity, success becomes a natural outcome.
Posted by Wanda Ropa, The Success Coach.