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Tip #4:
Become a Pollyanna!  Pollyanna, contrary to popular opinion, wasn’t teaching denial, or pie in the sky positive thinking.  Rather, she perfected a mind-set of learned optimism and of seeing the glass half full.  Pollyanna’s “Glad Game” turned around an entire town from being gloomy and pessimistic to being a happy, joyful place.

Not only will your sunny outlook help you be happier more of the time, but also your “vibes” will positively affect those around you.

If you’re single, keeping a sunny disposition will make your “vibe” much more attractive.  People like to be around upbeat people who make them feel good.

If you’re in sales, or are looking to climb a success ladder, you will be much more attractive to your ideal employer or ideal customer if your attitude is obviously an optimistic and happy one.  This will go a long way to developing the quality of your career and your life.
 

Tip #5:
Have Better Relationships by Living From Both Head and Heart.  Being too rigid, and intellectual can really wreck the relationship “happiness quotient”. The people in your life, just like you, want to hear expressed appreciation and to be given more understanding.

Sadly, it seems much easier in our society, for people to express disappointment, criticism and negative observations than it does the positive ones.  Speak words of encouragement and appreciation freely.  Become a coach to the people around you. Coaches look for the best in their clients and assist them in developing their “inner genius”, among many other things. 

They work on the principle of the “self-fulfilling prophecy.  When teachers, mentors and coaches expect the best out of their pupils, performance usually follows.  You can act as a coach to others around you by asking positive questions and encouraging, expecting their best efforts and staying away from judging them.

Ask for acknowledgement when you need it too.  People can’t read your mind. When you give and take freely of appreciation, understanding, praise, joy and fun in relationships they are bound to flourish.

At the same time, perhaps there are ways you never thought about to create compromise on some issue.  Get creative in problem-solving with your spouse or child.

On the business side of things, you will be seen as a premier team player when you contribute to your business relationships in this way.  When relationships are in balance and when they are positive contributions to your life, it becomes a “wind beneath your wings”.

Tip #6:
Stay in the here and now.  When coaching clients, one of the most frequent things I hear is “When I achieve this goal I will finally be happy.”  Life isn’t happening “then”. Life is happening right NOW!  Living a balanced life and developing a consistent experience of happiness is a process of really noticing and appreciating the good moments.  When you increase and amplify your inner gratitude for what IS good, you begin to have a more pervasive experience of happiness.

Make a habit of slowing things down.  Savor those good people, experiences and feelings in the very moment you are experiencing them.  While you are experiencing them and noticing them, inwardly say a thought of gratitude that you have this person, job, experience, feeling, or talent.

Whatever it is that you are enjoying, it will stay with you longer throughout the day if you don’t let it fly by without acknowledgement.  At the end of the day, as you review it, if you’ve really practiced this “here and now happiness”, the overall feeling about your day will be a good one.

When negatives come along the fact that you have spent time practicing this “here and now happiness” will make it a great deal easier to wade through it without overreacting.
 

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