Dysfunctional families come in all shapes, sizes and mixtures.  It really doesn’t matter whether you are divorced or single parent or blended family, one of the results of being raised in a dysfunctional family is often an underlying lack of confidence, or lack of ability to feel good about yourself.  Despite high accomplishment in career or some other area of life, many coaching clients find Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) can make a huge difference in raising self-esteem and confidence.  Clients  push through old barriers to personal and professional success.

Beating the Dysfunctional Family Syndromes with NLP

Though coaching is not therapy, and therapy is a very important aspect of healing from issues of dysfunctional families, coaching is the avenue that assists people in getting out of the issues.  With coaching clients have the support to rise above what stopped them in the past.

Many very accomplished people have  benefited from coaching to raise confidence and self-esteem, as well as improve their productivity and fulfillment in many areas of life.  Despite high achievement, and due to the symdromes some suffer due dysfunctional family history, people you would think “have it all together” may actually be overcompensating for feeling inadequate on the inside.  In fact they minimize their achievements — don’t see them as important or any “big deal,” despite the fact that the respect, recognition and admiration of others continues to come their way.

Let’s look at some of the common characteristics of dysfunctional families are many, and what is written here (below) is by no means a thorough list, but it is a significant set of challenges often experienced.

#1 – Addiction of some kind (most often alcohol or drugs, but workaholism, food addiction and obesity, even gambling, over-the-top sexual activity and shopping into bankruptcy are included here)

#2 – Control of a specific family member exerted on others in the family – to the point of being unreasonable, sometimes even harmful, stunting and bordering on family members feeling like they are captive.

#3 – Unpredictability and Fear – often there is unpredictable financial matters, emotional blow ups and the common feeling that when things are good, it’s only a matter of time before the proverbial “other shoe drops” and Daddy gets drunk again.

#4 – Conflict – while many families experience conflict, in dysfunctional families conflict seems almost constant and heated.  There may be an ongoing sense of resentment that seems to pervade relationships in a dysfunctional family, and in some cases anger and resentment that cannot be expressed openly for fear of ruffling feathers may well be hidden in passive-aggressive types of behavior.

#5 – Abuse may show itself as either physical or emotional (put downs, name calling, criticism) or it may be both. Worse still is emotional abuse during the physical abuse.

#6 – Perfectionism bespeaks of expectations that are not realistic and often children in dysfunctional families may be A+++ students and “perfect little angels” precisely because they feel they need to be perfect to get their parents to love them.

#7 – Poor Communication – you would think it obvious from all of the above characteristics, and communication within dysfunctional families is often strained, or it may not even exist.  Issues (particularly those of abuse, disrespect, terrible arguments never resolved, and neglect) are often swept under the rug.

#8 – Poor personal boundaries.  Often clients will complain how they feel as though they are “people pleasers” and they don’t want to “make waves.”  Typically, because of so much conflict growing up in the family, they avoid conflict as adults and they seem to avoid it by continually putting their needs and opinions last.  This syndrome (an aspect of codependency) is insidious and most suffer from extreme resentments because they never really stand up for themselves.

So what is NLP?  How can NLP help you make changes?

NLP is a method, set of techniques, or personal development system first developed in the early 1970s by psychologist Richard Bandler and linquist John Grinder in association with Gregory Bateson (British anthropologist and social scientist).

NLP uses a toolbox of strategies, axioms and beliefs about human communication, perception and subjective experience. The core principle is that an individual’s thoughts, gestures and words interact to create their perception of the world. By changing their outlook, using a variety of techniques, a person can improve their attitudes and actions.

NLP teaches that a person can develop successful habits by amplifying helpful behaviors and diminishing negative ones. Positive change can come when one carefully reproduces the behaviors and beliefs of successful people (called ‘modeling’). It also states that all human beings have all the resources necessary for success within themselves.

NLP techniques may be used in group trainings, seminars, or individual consultations. Practitioners deal with personal issues like framing negative beliefs, dealing with stage fright and simple phobias or depression.  Adherents may take up NLP as a skill set for coaching, consulting, or counseling. Trainers may mix NLP techniques with ideas about motivational techniques, adult learning, management, and sales training.

As a coach trained in NLP I have seen some miraculous transformations within my clients.  Whatever your goals – whether personal or professional  – if the syndrome(s) from being raised in a dysfunctional family is stopping you from your achievements, destroying your relationships and holding you back from living all that you want to live, it’s time to break the barriers and push past the past.

Here is a tremendous resource

If you live in Tampa Bay, here is a terrific resource for you  if you have a loved one trapped in an addiction: http://www.tampabayalanon.org/.  Anywhere else in the Country you can find Al-Anon groups and organizations by simply searching on the internet for your location.

Or contact me for a free consultation through www.Ferocecoaching.com

To Your Success,

Rev. Dr. Christina Winsey

Coach, Author, Speaker, Board Eligible Diplomate of the American College of Addictionology and Compulsive Disorders.

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I am so passionate about making sure the public does not fool itself with diet fads and the ideas of eating cookies and cakes as “acceptable,” as long as the calories are counted.  Don’t get me wrong – you don’t have to go your entire life never having another cookie or piece of chocolate cake, but in weight loss it is like making your body trudge uphill.  

Here is an explanation:  You may have heard the term “Glycemic Index,” as being very important to your goal.  So just what does Glycemic Index (GI) mean?  In the simplest of explanations,  it is the measure (compared to white bread) of how quickly a food will raise the sugar levels of your blood after eating it. (See Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glycemic_Index).   It is far better for foods to slowly provide your cells with the fuel it needs, rather than a big dump of sugar into the system.

Without going into great explanation and detail, keep in mind that the more your blood sugar is high, the more your body is trying to pump out insulin to manage your blood sugar and keep it at normal levels.  What it can’t manage ends up as fat deposits.  If this happens chronically over time eventually a person may develop type II diabetes. 

In regard to weight loss, suffice it to say it won’t help you lose weight and keep it off if the foods you eat have a high GI.

Something equally important to keep in mind is the Glycemic Load (GL).  It is calculated by multiplying the GI by the amount of carbohydrate grams in a particular food and then dividing by 100 (Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glycemic_load).   The GL tells us a bit more about how quickly and how much a food will raise blood sugar levels, and what is very important to keep in mind is that fiber assists in slowing down the breakdown of carbohydrates – a higher fiber-containing food is a far better choice than one with little fiber.

How do we apply this?  Take the raw carrot and the cooked potato.  The carrot has a higher GI but a healthier GL because it has far more fiber than the potato.  The potato goes right into your system and breaks down to raise blood sugar quickly – less fiber to get through.   

This is a topic that truly bears note.  If you are counting points or calories on a particular program for weight loss, you may think that a piece of chocolate cake can be okay, as long as you calculate the number of calories into your day, or the number of points on your daily point system. 

However, it is not a great choice in the long run.  Yes it can fit into your point system or calorie count for the day, but does that mean it will be the food that keeps your blood sugar levels healthy and normal?  Absolutely not! 

If you want to not only lose weight but learn how to keep it off and live a lifestyle of health, study this topic.  It will make a world of difference.

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Sarasota, FL Addiction Recovery Coach, Dr. Christina Winsey: “Do you suspect alcohol may be a bigger problem for you than you thought?”  Do you suspect that you have a dual addiction: food and alcohol?  Do you think your problem is that you just need to lose weight, but you don’t want to have to give up alcohol or wine?

There is nothing wrong with celebrating the New Year with the bubbly. There is nothing wrong with enjoying a glass or two of wine with dinner. So when does alcohol become a real problem?  How do you know you’re addicted?  How do you know if you’re addicted to food or to alcohol?

I’m Dr. Christina Winsey, a Sarasota-Florida-based Addiction Recovery Coach.  Many of my clients don’t even realize, nor do they want to admit, when alcohol or food are big parts of the problems they are facing in life.  Using an addictive substance to “deal with life” is never a strategy that works for long.  It is inevitable that addiction ends up destroying the very careers, relationships and health and lives we really want. 

Is alcohol affecting your life?

Foods you can't stop eating

As an addiction recovery coach I work with men and women from all over the Country by phone.  These clients may have any kind of addiction, though alcohol and food are the most common ones people turn to coaching for.  Some have two or more addictions, (sometimes a combination of food and alcohol).

Many come to coaching saying they want to lose weight, and they get surprised to learn that alcohol may be one of the major causes of their extra pounds.  But they also then realize that giving up that alcohol is much more difficult than they ever realized.

Do any of these three profiles fit you?

*Weight is a challenge because over the years you became more sedentary but your eating habits remained hearty (filled with rich, high calorie foods).  You want to lose weight but you don’t want to give up alcohol or at the very least, you want to be able to enjoy wine with their dinners – and not just a glass, but a bottle a night.  Weight has packed on over the years and now you are even afraid to look in the mirror.

*You are beginning to get hangovers more frequently and your drinking amounts have increased.  You look for excuses to go out and party, and the partying always seems to include lots of food, and perhaps some behaviors you’re not too proud of.  Perhaps you’ve been late to work, or you just aren’t on “top of your game” like you used to be.  Maybe you know that alcohol is becoming a problem for you and you are worried that you really can’t stop. 

*You binge on carbohydrates (sugary foods, cakes, cookies, deserts, pastas and breads) and this has become a big problem.  Make no mistake; these carbohydrate foods are equally addictive in nature.  Wine or alcohol  go with the overeating “territory” and you have noticed how, over the years, you are drinking more and more.   You have tried many diets, including the “drinking man’s diet,” but nothing has really worked for you to keep the weight off, and you are still craving at least a couple of drinks a day. 

It may be one of these or anotherWhatever the case, don’t go it alone in your quest for health, recovery and real change.

Four  Vital Keys to Recovery:

What does it really take to recover from addiction, and to stay in recovery?  There are four absolutely vital keys to recovery that should be incorporated into any program you embark on.  These are: commitment, structure, support with accountability and a whole-person approach. 

Commitment.  When a client comes to a treatment program, to addiction recovery coaching or therapy it must be he or she who is making the commitment to recovery for the long haul.  One of my favorite sayings about recovery is “The only way out is through.”  In other words, there are no short-cuts.  There is no skipping around addiction.  Recovery is process that you have to go through and there are specific steps to be taken.  Without real commitment that “when the going gets tough, the tough get going,” recovery will be a fleeting thing.  Diets, and swearing off the booze are not a long-term answer, as we all know.

Structure eliminates guessing games as to what is expected.  Structure provides a framework that creates order from what may have previously been a real chaos.

Support and accountability go hand in hand and are probably two of the most important aspects to successful recovery.  In addiction the ego plays a strong role in holding you captive, so to speak, to the addiction.  The ego says “I can do this myself.”  So many times addicts tell themselves they’ll stop tomorrow and promise themselves that “If I really wanted to stop I would.”  But without support and accountability to another person or program these are usually idle words that never translate into reality.  It is not weak to need support.  Asking for support is actually a sign of strength – a sign that the ego is softening.

A whole-person approach to recovery means that it is vital to consider all aspects of you, of your life and what makes you tick, and to what makes your life work.  Since addition is a multi-pronged problem affecting mind, body, spirit, emotions and all aspects of your life,there are tools, skills and techniques that address these different aspects of you and your life must be included in a long-term recovery plan.

Addiction Recovery-Life  Coaching

Addiction recovery  is not as simple as “just say ‘No’!”  This specialty arm of life coaching requires special training.  Recovery requires  a strong and structured recovery plan that may well incorporate community addiction recovery resources, and/or other professionals, as necessary.  An addiction recovery coach is not a therapist.  Utilizing both coaching and therapy together may be recommended.  Most important is that you, the client, are committed to the process for the long haul.  At least a solid year of following a structured recovery program or plan is highly recommended.

Some free resources can assist you in discovering whether you may have an alcoholic addiction pattern.  Alcoholics Anonymous has a questionnaire which may help you decide whether you are in trouble with alcohol.  It is not a questionnaire with which to diagnose yourself as an alcoholic, but it is a strong indication that alcohol is a problem in your life.  http://www.aa.org/lang/en/subpage.cfm?page=71 American Society of Addiction Medicine Patient Placement Criteria: http://www.asam.org/PatientPlacementCriteria.html.  Overeater’s Anonymous has telephone and online meetings, as well as in-person meetings in your town.  http://www.oa.org/meetings/find-a-meeting-online.php.  Psychologists who specialize in serious eating disorders: http://www.findapsychologist.org/eating_disorders.html

Recovery isn’t an easy path.  There are habits to change and cravings to deal with.  There may even be medical issues that must be addressed.  But if you are suffering and if it is affecting your job, your relationships or your success in life, you owe it to yourself to catch the problem now and start to turn it around.

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Recover with an experienced coach:  Dr. Christina Winsey practices as an addiction recovery coach, alternative health coach, weight loss coach, and life and confidence coach.  You can receive a free consultation with Dr. Christina Winsey:  http://www.ferocecoaching.com/contact/free-coaching-consultation/

Our addiction recovery coach serve clients in Los Angeles, San Francisco and the Bay Area, Miami, Chicago, Detroit, Minneapolis, St. Louis, New York City, Charlotte, Philadelphia, Dallas, Houston, San Antonio, Madison, Milwaukee, NYC, Washington D.C., San Diego, Denver, Jacksonville, Atlanta, Honolulu, Baltimore, Boston, Kansas City, Omaha, Las Vegas, Newark, Cincinnati, Cleveland, Columbus, Dayton, Portland, Pittsburgh, Nashville, Fort Worth, Salt Lake City, Seattle, San Jose, Phoenix, Tucson, Tampa, Olympia, Spokane, Tacoma, Palo Alto, Pasadena, Sacramento, Santa Monica, Greenwich, Hartford, New Haven, Albuquerque, Austin, Birmingham, Huntsville, Montgomery, Eugene, Salem, and many more!

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Studies since the 1950s show the caloric restriction on laboratory animals. By restricting calories and maintaining a high level of nutrition, which are called CRONs (Caloric Restriction with Optimal Nutrition) animals tend to live longer. Studies show they can live between 30 to 200 percent longer, depending on the species. These studies have been done on several dozen species and the results are the same throughout. The same studies are currently being done on primates but it could take up to 10+ years to know see the results.

Learn more about alternative health coaching with Dr. Christina Winsey.

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Whether you are looking for a mate or you are in a relationship that may need some refinement to thrive, spending quality time focused solely on you, and taking a holistic approach to your life makes all the difference!

For those seeking to find that special someone, or to enhance a current, committed relationship, it is so important to enhance communication, understanding and intimacy. However, if you are stuck in anger, resentment, past hurts and the like, this may not be such an easy task.

You may have noticed that you always attract the same type of person. They seem a “perfect match” at first but then the same old patterns plague your relationship and you end up feeling disillusioned, disappointed and needing to leave for the presumed “greener pastures.”

What is a “holistic approach”? It is life coaching in which we are not just focused on one aspect of you, but on all of you (mind, body, emotions, spirit and practical life management). There are fantastic mind-body tools to really make a difference in eliminating internal challenges that may be keeping you stuck in repetitive negative patterns.

Some of these tools include neuro-linguistic programming and the emotional freedom technique, Silva Mind Control, guided visualization, and self-hypnosis. Together with focused life coaching and self-compassion, you more quickly free yourself of past resentments, and the emotional baggage which often plagues many relationships.

Many people are searching for that perfect match and they believe that once they find him or her, all of a sudden life will be all better (i.e., happily ever after).

Most people inherently realize this isn’t possible and that “happily ever after” is from fairy tales. But it seems that wishful thinking and hoping it is true never really leaves any of us.

The truth is that finding and keeping successful relationships is much more about BE-ing the “right” person yourself. From that state of being your best you, you become far more attractive to those people you would most want in your life. You will find you are attracting a different type of person – one who is better able to appreciate who you are because you are better appreciating yourself!

Concentrate on developing the inner you – your BE-ingness. When you flourish on the inside, with or without a mate you become much more attractive. In a way you are creating a magnetic energetic field of attraction of those people and opportunities you want to bring into your life. When your focus is turned inward to improving who you are, those whom you want to attract will find their way to you much more easily and readily.

The first goal in life coaching is to create a life you love – to live your life’s purpose, values, and to find real meaning, confidence and joy. If you are to be a good partner to your mate or to attract a partner then taking an inward focus and spending time really getting to know, love and appreciate yourself – to release the past, forgive yourself and others and to truly “come home” to yourself.

A gardener weeds and fertilizes nurtures and tends to his or her garden with love, patience and caring. Even the loveliest of gardens have weeds popping up and require maintenance. A good and intuitive gardener pays close attention – notices changes and potential problems and is pro-active in prevention.

Gardening is an ongoing process, not a one-time event. A relationship – a good relationship with you – requires the same kind of ongoing “gardening”.

In many instances communication, or miscommunication and unrealistic expectations are 90% of the problem in relationships. Much of this miscommunication and these unrealistic expectations come from depending on your partner to fill all your needs and to make you happy. This puts an overwhelming strain (albeit unexpressed, but felt anyway) on your partner and the relationship.

In life coaching you will really “come home” to yourself. You will learn what really makes your life flow and fulfill your own personal needs so that when you do meet a special someone, or if you are in a committed relationship, you are a far better partner. You stop expecting the unreasonable. You begin taking responsibility for your own happiness and in co-creating joy with your partner, or potential life mate.

Some people consider life coaching a luxury. Truly life coaching is an incredible gift you can give yourself such that you create a life you love – a happier, more fulfilled you! After all, the best relationship is the one you have with yourself. If that isn’t good it is awfully difficult for a relationship with a partner to remain and thrive.

Read what some of my clients have to say about life coach Dr. Christina Winsey, Life and Relationship Coach

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Healthy Tips About Sugar from Weight and Health Coach

If you are Trying to Avoid Too Much Sugar then You will Want to Know that it Ends Up in Many Foods and You Don’t Even Realize Because You Didn’t Know it Was Sugar

The sugar class of molecules consist of carbon, oxygen, and hydrogen arranged in a ringed structure. Carbohydrates (a “macronutrient” category of foods) is the group sugar belongs to.  Other carbohydrates include starches, (You know, that piece of cake you had?  Bread, pasta, but even bananas, fruits, potatoes and grains).  Still others are celluloses, and gums produced only by photosynthetic plants.

What do we mean by “macronutrient”?  Carbohydrates are large molecules made up of lots of smaller “building blocks” in the form of simple sugars.  Put enough simple sugars together in a chain or group and you get a carbohydrate. Simple sugars are an essential structural component of living cells and the source of energy for all animals, including humans. They are easily broken down for the body to use to make something called ATP (the energy molecule).

So why should we avoid too much sugar?  That will be in my next blog so definitely come back to read more.  Suffice it to say that sugar, in its white, processed form of sucrose is highly addictive and has more adverse side effects than raising blood sugar and adding empty calories that put on weight.  For now, realize that sugar has many names and forms. It is also necessary in the diet. The brain depends on it. So does our level of energy. Unfortunately, mankind is now inundated with the wrong kinds of sugar, as evidenced by skyrocketing heart disease, diabetes, and obesity.  So know your sugars.  Let’s first learn the different names.  There are dozens of different kinds of sugar under a variety of names:

• barley malt
• brown sugar
• cane sugar
• corn syrup
• dextrose
• fructose
• fruit sugar
• glucose
• high-fructose corn syrup
• honey
• icing sugar
• invert sugar
• jaggary
• lactose
• maltose
• maple syrup
• molasses
• powdered sugar
• raw sugar
• rice syrup
• saccharinose
• sucrose
• sugar beets
• turbinados
• and more….

So now you know what to look for when shopping.  Next we will learn more about why sugar (simple sugar) is stay tuned for my next installment about the addictive nature of sugar…

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<h2>EFT a quick stress relief buster, taught by a life and health coach </h2>

Let’s first talk about the epidemic of carbohydrate addiction happening in this country and then we can go on to discuss how EFT can help.

High-fructose corn syrup is a sweetener found in most sodas and many other processed foods. In a new study on mice, this sweetener is shown to be at least partially the cause of insulin resistance.

How would you like to eat something that turns to fat quicker than sugar? Fructose is the culprit – it is metabolized into fat storage over glucose storage in the liver. What is worse, in the process it can lead to nonalcoholic fatty liver disease (NAFLD), which then leads to an insulin resistance of the liver (“hepatic insulin resistance” and eventually type II diabetes!

New cases of diabetes have ballooned. The increase doctors have seen is 90% in the last ten years! One in four Americans is now afflicted with either pre-diabetes or diabetes. What are we doing to ourselves?

You Can Be Free!

On top of this, food – particularly sugar – is an addictive substance for those who have what used to be considered just an “alcoholic gene.” In fact, there are five major addictions, all of which are the same disease. Approximately 20% of the population is born with this “alcoholic gene”. What they’re born with is an inability, due to the right brain chemicals, to feel good. Called the “Reward Deficiency Syndrome,” the startling fact is that this syndrome is why all five addictions: alcohol, drugs, food, sex, gambling and work, become the “substance of choice” to feel good.

But I couldn’t end this discussion without urging that if you or someone you love or care about seems to have an addiction problem – if you even think there is one – please seek out an addiction expert in your area, or alcoholics anonymous (AA). AA has lists of meetings related to the other addictions as well.

Now let us turn to EFT and discuss how it can assist recovery:

EFT has worked for hundreds of my clients, over and over again, to stop the urgency of addictive cravings for sugar and carbohydrates as well as a serious cocaine addiction. EFT does not eliminate the fact that the person has been born with the reward deficiency syndrome. But EFT is a fabulous tool for eliminating the stressful triggers that upset addicted individuals and increase their need to use their addiction to feel better. They feel better with EFT and so some of the mental, emotional and even physiological changes that occur when using EFT have given my clients with addictive habits the ability to make the right choice.

Instead of diving into a hot fudge Sunday they may choose to call a supportive friend. Instead of smoking another cigarette (a drug to be sure) they may actually take a walk – anything that is pleasurable to them that they can fit into that time, even if it’s just looking at the sunset for a few minutes to calm themselves further. While this may seem simplistic, EFT has a powerful way of releasing stress, cravings and emotional upset within the body and body chemistry. Using tools like EFT not only relieve many of the stressful inner triggers to picking up sugar or any addictive substance, but it also “buys time”. EFT gives you a window of opportunity to make better choices and get support instead.

No, EFT doesn’t “cure” an addiction, but it is a powerful tool to aid the continued process of staying in recovery and peace. It has worked for me, for my clients and it can work for you! I am the resident Feroce expert on conquering negative habits, EFT and other mind-body tools for change and it would be my pleasure to assist you. You can read my full bio.

Coach Christina
Sources:

-Science Daily March 3, 2009
-Cell Metabolism March 2009; 9(3):252-64
-The Reward Deficiency Syndrome by Kenneth Blum, Ph.D., D.A.C.A.C.D. and Jay M. Holder, D.C., M.D., Ph.D.

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Are you one of those people who is ernestly watching what you eat and exercising yet weight is not coming off? Being a health coach and weight loss coach, I have come across so many clients of late who are suffering from food allergies that cause their bodies to retain fluids and weight unnecessarily.

The most common allergens: Wheat, dairy, soy, corn, caffeine, chocolate and sugar!

You can get tested for food allergies through blood tests or through applied kinesiology. Check with a local holistic health practitioner that you trust or to whom you’re referred by someone you trust.

And did you know about something called Systemic Yeast problems? This is another reason why some people don’t lose weight. You can read my article “Crave Sweets? – On the Mood and Weight Rollercoaster? – Perhaps it’s Not What You Think!” at Diet and Wellness Coaching.

It will open your eyes to yet another important health epidemic! You may also write to me via our free coaching consultation and ask for my Health Questionnaire. It’s free and may be one of the most important things you’ve ever done for yourself.

To your health!

Coach Christina

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I really love this life balance tip, and I think it is one which bears repeating from time to time.

“Who I am is ENOUGH!”

My friends, I don’t know about you, but in this fast-paced, consumer society of capitalism and racing to the top, most people are walking around feeling as though there is somewhere else they need to be, or someone else they need to be, or that who they are and what they have just doesn’t measure up.

It is so vital to feel good about yourself and your life WHILE you are “going for more gold”

It is so vital to be in a place of peace, acceptance, even gratitude for who and where you are. Being in acceptance does not mean that you don’t try to make changes or improvements. It simply means that you are at peace and in joy just as things are now, AND, that you are happy IN THE PROCESS of working towards being, doing and having more.

I used to spend my life feeling “not enough”. I used to believe I had to prove something. I used to compare myself bitterly to other people and always felt as though I came up short.

It wasn’t until I truly began to embrace all of myself and my life as it was that I then seemed to make big leaps forward.

Most people truly want peace of mind, but they are usually so busy striving for this or that thing or experience or way of being, thinking that THEN they will have peace of mind.

Now I’m not speaking about people in abusive relationships or oppressive situations where there is threat or danger. I don’t believe anyone should accept that kind of situation, nor stay in it.

I’m really speaking about personal growth and personal achievement issues.

My fondest wish for you is that you know that you are ENOUGH just as you are right this very minute! You are good enough! Sure, you may want to spend time improving and growing. And, I guarantee that that growth and improvement will come much easier when you are loving accepting and supporting yourself for who you are, while on the improvement road.

This can be done, and in the process of life balance coaching, clients find that place inside themselves where they realize they can be happy with themselves and they absolutely can and wil create lives they love!

Cheers,

Coach Christina

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Susan Epstein, my friend:

What are your views on limits around television, computer games, video games, etc.? The rules at our home are: 2 hours of tv time Saturday, 2 on Sunday, only 1 on weeknights assuming homework and piano practice are done. Then, weekends only 3 hours a day are allowed on computer or video games combined. None during the week. I happen to think that’s a great deal. Naturally, my 10 year old son disagrees.

What is your experience?

Thanks,

Coach Christina

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