Painting by Vytas

As children we are introduced to the wonderful practice of wishing.  Crossing all cultures and standing the test of time, we all dream of making our wishes come true.   

When you wish upon a star
Makes no difference who you are
Anything your heart desires
Will come to you

Performed by Jiminy Cricket

Children of all ages delight in wishing upon a star, and the practice of wishing wells are well known to help you buy luck and fortune.  “The tradition of making a wish with a coin has been passed down through generations by socialization, evolving from a religious ritual into a fun, yet superstitious, cultural practice.”

However, vague and generalized wishing just doesn’t work.  If it did, you wouldn’t be reading this article, you would be enjoying the luscious pleasures of being in paradise, on a tropical island, or other versions of your own personal Shangri-La.  

Wishing for something that deep down you know will never happen is a waste of time and energy, unless you use it strictly for entertainment purposes.  So, imagine that you wish someday to be working for yourself but in your heart of all hearts, you haven’t a clue how this miracle of all miracles could occur, and better yet, you don’t have one shred of belief that it could happen.  You feel blocked but still keep wishing.  Similar to throwing a seed into a garden, hoping something blooms. 

We just celebrated the New Year’s holiday and many of you habitually wrote down all your New Year’s resolutions.  How many times have you written down the same goal and nothing changed?  You always seem to get the same results.  I’m here to suggest an alternative. 

Before you can initiate the powerful wishing cycle, it would be helpful to do some spring-cleaning.  I know what you might be thinking, what strange place am I taking you to?  Stay with me and judge for yourself.  In order to create new momentum and shift patterns that haven’t been working, I recommend creating some space in your life to allow possibilities. 

One way to start this process gently is to release one blip from your radar screen.  By following this process, you will functionally remove this item from your immediate sphere of influence.

The process:  1. Write down whatever you would like to leave behind in 2006. This could be a practice, a pattern, type of food, etc.
2. Safely burn the piece of paper outside and watch the flames of fire reduce this paper to ash. You can also shred the paper, for safety reasons.
  The key is to watch it disintegrate and vanish from your life.

Feroce’s Certified Assessments’ Coach, Merrilee Olson-Axtell first introduced me to this technique.  While celebrating New Year’s Eve at Merrilee’s hacienda, she suggested that we release all the things we wanted to leave behind in 2006 as we moved on to 2007.  One of her guests, a very perceptive 6-year-old little girl had real difficulty identifying what she wanted to remove for 12 months.  Remember when you were six?  Life wasn’t as complicated as it is now, was it?  So, with the help of her Mom and me, she declared that she wanted to stop eating broccoli.  She wrote down the word ‘broccoli’ with her Mom’s help and gleefully threw the paper into the fireplace.  To see the look on her face wearing the biggest grin I have ever seen as the adults toasted, “no more broccoli!” was priceless.  What is the broccoli that you want to remove for 12 months? 

Once you make space for new possibilities, play with the notion of wishing with a focus.  Once you are clear, you can let go of your emotional attachment to the outcomes. 

Brian Tracy suggests â€œclarity accounts for probably 80% of success and happiness. Lack of clarity is probably more responsible for frustration and underachievement than any other single factor. You could even say that the three keys to high achievement are, “Clarity, Clarity, Clarity.” Your success in life will be largely determined by how clear you are about what it is you really, really want.” 

Being open and receptive will allow opportunities to emerge that you would have never thought possible.  Wishing with a focus means you will receive more of what you focus on!  Try it and see.

Need help getting clear about what you really want?

William Shakespeare said, “All the world’s a stage,” and we are all actors playing a role.  The art of play fosters creativity, encourages fun and believe it or not, actually produces amazing results. 

Ready to join me and play?

Your creativity coach, Wanda.

4 Responses to “Wishing With A Focus: Musings From Your Creativity Coach”

  1. replenn says:

    This article speaks to me because I did something similar to the release method this year. Instead of making resolutions that I new that I could not keep, I decided to let go of some things that were not within my control. My thought behind this was that I was making space for my wished to come true.

  2. Michelle says:

    I’m going to do something a little different — I’m going to fill a backpack with rocks and carry it around my yard. Sometimes I feel like I carry around so much heaviness that doesn’t ever serve any useful purpose! Then I’m going to empty it out and heave all of the rocks into the Potomac River.

  3. cwicks says:

    Wow / if I could just get rid of the emotional dead weight, I think I could naturally float upward. Geez I’d better use my fire place to burn the paper. They would be calling the fire department if I did this outside. It would be a barnfire. Great place to start forward movement

  4. cwicks says:

    This makes a lot of sense. It seems logical that two opposing concepts can not occupy the same space. Can’t figure out why I buy into negative non productive thinking when I know the only person it really has a drain on is guess who? I think I may have to practice this daily . If I did this annually I’d have a barn fire going !

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